How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

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After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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    Charisma on CommandCharisma on Command4 aylar önce
    • Baffulnish can even crosh over into shynesh

      Connor RamoneConnor RamoneAylar önce
    • "you're an icon" it's BS, nobody is an icon, having icons is what's wrong in today's society

      vitral es montañavitral es montaña2 aylar önce
    • @5dope I am your dearest.

      coldflamecoldflame3 aylar önce
  • *Sees the title* CLICKS FAST AF

    Big BrownnuggetBig Brownnugget2 saatler önce
  • She has such beautiful eyes.

    R JR J6 saatler önce
  • 1) Be gorgeous.

    CLPCLP6 saatler önce
  • “Racing yo beat them to notice the thing before you do” okay I DID NOT ask to be read like that

    Imani JadeImani Jade12 saatler önce
  • Wait, why are people being mean to Sophie Turner? Sansa as written by D&D is a poorly written character.

    J MaceJ Mace19 saatler önce
  • Me: turns my anxiety into charisma My anxiety: wait no thats illegal

    Sæunn LiljaSæunn Lilja21 saatler önce
  • Omg the Justin Bieber thing is still one of the funniest things I have ever seen somebody do when meeting someone.

    Alycia WilsonAlycia WilsonGün önce
  • sophie turner is so cute ohmygod

    Calypso KingCalypso King2 gün önce
  • Idk how well mirroring will go.

    III II III IIII II III I2 gün önce
  • i'm a naturally anxious person and this video was definitely helpful but it also had big alien trying to understand human behavior vibes lol

    JuliaJulia2 gün önce
  • You should do a video about all these new Joaquin Phoenix interviews, he shows really good behavioral techniques.

    Jack's AnarchyJack's Anarchy2 gün önce

    wow717wow7173 gün önce
  • i think i already do most of these.... does that mean..... i may actually have some charisma?

    inès κinès κ3 gün önce
  • But she isn't trying to be charismatic she just IS.

    JulalaJulala3 gün önce
  • I watch this whole video.. but can someone wrap this up?

    Youtube UserYoutube User3 gün önce
  • You should also do Jennifer Lawrence!

    SofiaSofia3 gün önce
  • Damn my friends know I'm shy under social pressure and they make fun of it. I hate it. All I think about was to end our friendship sometimes.

    Chicken Lurkin' Yung ChihuahuaChicken Lurkin' Yung Chihuahua4 gün önce
    • Chicken Lurkin' Yung Chihuahua same . Ruins my day

      Youtube UserYoutube User3 gün önce
  • I wonder how many sociopaths watch this channel to know how to act 😅

    Girl With The Plumbob TattooGirl With The Plumbob Tattoo4 gün önce
  • Too many ted talks about anxiety gave me this recommendation hahahaha

    Saylin yinyangSaylin yinyang4 gün önce
  • Wow TRvision really calling me tf out by recommending this, huh?

    that personthat person4 gün önce
  • 5:15 kylie jenner joined the chat

    juno_pjuno_p4 gün önce
  • I really love Sophie. She is so charismatic and sweet, and she's an amazing actress. She is also SO gorgeous. I'll watch anything with her in it.

    CelesteCeleste4 gün önce
  • i think this would only work with attractive people

    Laura VigupeLaura Vigupe5 gün önce
  • I don t like that he s comparing her to other celebreties

    Carol WaguihCarol Waguih5 gün önce
  • How to turn anxiety into charisma? Be exceptionally beautiful.

    DeDe CocoDeDe Coco5 gün önce
  • Omg it me

    LaBonneSalopeLaBonneSalope5 gün önce
  • wow she really does like like boy george

    poe dampoe dam5 gün önce
  • Honestly I use a lot of these methods! People who don't know me well assume I'm very extroverted but I just have different tricks that help me. Probably 5 years ago is when I first decided to lean into my awkwardness and laugh at my social blunders. If I started to feel flustered I would purposefully be even weirder (think Aubrey Plaza) or say something snarky but obviously a joke. It would break the ice and I'd then have much less anxiety. I still get flustered sometimes but overall I'm much better socially.

    turbulentbeautyturbulentbeauty5 gün önce
  • It’s cute how the narrator says: That bashfulnesh can crosh over into shy-fulness at 2:18 💕

    Claire MamoClaire Mamo6 gün önce
  • I love her

    HobiiHobii6 gün önce
  • This does not work if your not thin, have asymmetrical face and idealized. Get it? This works if you're highly attractive. Do not expect to get this response if you lack in the attractiveness department.

    Hermès AlcazarHermès Alcazar6 gün önce
  • I love Sophie and she is a great inspiration to me, specially after this video, but honestly is already hard to like myself, I don't really want to try to be social so ppl can like me. Maybe some day, but not now. But I loved the video!!

    Little Moth Big WingsLittle Moth Big Wings6 gün önce
  • But I'm not funny

    wn 1906wn 19066 gün önce
  • I think of Lana Del Rey watching this. Awkward. Anxious.

    llahmitswrllahmitswr6 gün önce
  • She's not particularly charismatic, and she doesn't need to be. People like her because she's gorgeous.

    Mariachi InglesMariachi Ingles7 gün önce
  • Counsellor: yeah uh dude you got severe anxiety Me, frantically rolling dice: _CHARISMA CHECK_

    nefariousnefarious7 gün önce
  • I feel all Pisces are like this... stay strong guys

    Geneva FransGeneva Frans7 gün önce
  • Xanax

    A MA M7 gün önce
  • This is me

    Cesar RuizCesar Ruiz8 gün önce

    Lilique JaelLilique Jael9 gün önce
  • Defo do Summer Walker

    JodieJodie10 gün önce
  • "absolute icon" lol ok

    Abir AmezzaneAbir Amezzane10 gün önce
  • I do all of this naturally lol but I'm not likeable enough

    Leigh MendozaLeigh Mendoza10 gün önce

    Holly SumnerHolly Sumner11 gün önce
  • So this is why my friends said that i have the charisma meanwhile i always nervous anxious and trembling and even my hands turn cold when doing presention or performing pft

    light quinlight quin12 gün önce
  • What a great video! Thanks :D

    Ariel RoseAriel Rose12 gün önce
  • Do for mila Kunis.she so kind and funny

    Ashna AshnaAshna Ashna13 gün önce
  • 4:37

    Vess BeckhamVess Beckham13 gün önce
  • she's pretty, cute, nice, funny and smart. + she's a celebrity, don't lie to regular people who aren't like that and don't give them a false hope

    Sleeping CinderellaSleeping Cinderella13 gün önce
    • Haha welcome to this channel. It takes rich people's moods as reality.

      b kingb kingGün önce
  • I tried to do that and it was working till P.E class when I did sit ups and and person holding my heard me fart..

    Yay YayYay Yay14 gün önce

    dylan foleydylan foley15 gün önce
  • I feel like I do these things! Yay!

    Moonrise ForestMoonrise Forest15 gün önce
  • She’s the most charismatic person ever, this gives me hope lol

    Roberta HRoberta H15 gün önce
  • Can we get a rip for Sophie?

    koko kobekoko kobe16 gün önce
  • More I watch videos of this channel, more I say.. wtf.. am I a sociopath or an alien ?

    vincevince16 gün önce
  • This really helped

    Tessa DivineTessa Divine16 gün önce
  • start doing this ? pointing to chin ? wtf is that

    Johji UeharaJohji Uehara16 gün önce
  • she is not charismatic at all.

    La Serpenta CantaLa Serpenta Canta18 gün önce
  • I really needed this

    JirahJirah20 gün önce
  • Besides all of this: Be hot.

    Denniz HDenniz H20 gün önce
  • >when people do the opposite, never revealing too much, we struggle to feel at ease, wondering if they're secretly judging us And in another video on confidence with Jon Hamm you claimed that Jon Hamm's confidence rests on non-reacting under pressure which makes him a great influencer. I feel like there's some kind of contradiction.

    KonstantinGeistKonstantinGeist21 gün önce
  • i dont know why im watching this. i Only wanted to know how this charisma works on girls😂

    Godsend DjokerGodsend Djoker22 gün önce
  • Lol I see videos like this or the one about mirroring body language to create rapport, and I feel guilty even considering using these cos in my head it'd feel like I'm using weird robot techniques to foster human relationships

    0urMutualFriend0urMutualFriend23 gün önce
  • I love this video. I relate alot to Sophie, people think im actually really freindly and bubbly but in actuality, its just anxiety. But sometimes I overshare or overkill things so these videos are great and learning how to work my strengths❤❤

    Sabrina MitchellSabrina Mitchell25 gün önce
  • She looks like Jennifer lawrence

    karol karamkarol karam27 gün önce
  • wow i didn’t realize it but this is just how i feel when i interact with people, i’m really awkward and a bit shy but i try my best to say something funny or start a conversation when given the opportunity. it’s something i see myself continuing to work on though.

    SeanTheProSeanThePro27 gün önce
  • Jessica Chastain is a gorgeous woman.

    TastedGloryTastedGlory29 gün önce
  • I wonder if Sophie has watched this

    TastedGloryTastedGlory29 gün önce
  • when I see people “mirror” me I become really pissed off at the disingenuousness and attempt to manipulate..

    don cahootidon cahootiAylar önce
How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma