How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma

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After watching an interview on Jimmy Fallon where Sophie Turner comes across as very charismatic, I started looking into doing a breakdown on her. I was surprised to find that she actually says she struggles in social situations.
On the second watch through, I noticed that hints of nervousness were present in that first Jimmy Fallon interview. So in this video, we’re going to learn what it seems Sophie has learned: how to turn anxiety, shyness, and nervousness into charisma.

4:34 - Strategy #1: Active listening
4:50 - Strategy #2: Mirroring
6:00 - Strategy #3: Elaborate on someone else’s idea
6:31 - Strategy #4: Make fun of your own shyness
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  • Repetition and mirroring is so cool

    Galliano MarrGalliano MarrGün önce
  • The fact that we're similar, Sophie and I, makes me want to actually start watching Game of Thrones.

    Erikson Dos SantosErikson Dos SantosGün önce
  • I’m not sure if this is going to work for me. I’d overthinking the whole situation every time enough to lose track of what I was trying to do in the first place.

    She's in the RainShe's in the Rain2 gün önce
  • You should do a variation where it’s group settings where you’re not being directly asked questions but have to actively participate

    TimtomtannTimtomtann4 gün önce
  • All this highlights how great Sophie is handling anxiety in the media. Any actual actionable steps......, it's cute to repeat someone on a 5 min segment when there's a camera but in a social setting I can't imagine people not giving me an even stranger look.

    seunyseuny6 gün önce
  • You should do a video on how Bryan Callen makes other comedians funnier

    JakeJake6 gün önce
  • Can you do Kawhi Leonard? I mean, if you know him of course.

    Magique John-stonedMagique John-stoned6 gün önce
  • Why was this literally in the secrets of a highly effective teenager book?

    SabrinaSabrina6 gün önce
  • Do a video on Eric Andre

    Stephen RayStephen Ray7 gün önce
  • Trying to see a clip that could actually confirm that she is shy

    hardToSignUpHerehardToSignUpHere8 gün önce
  • Love your videos man. But famous people aren't good examples. If your famous people are automatically going to like you because subconsciously they realize everyone else likes you. 99% of people are followers. If these people did the same thing but weren't famous, they wouldn't get near as much recognition.

    SemperFiMarine0311SemperFiMarine03118 gün önce
  • I just discovered your channel and I really enjoy your content, it really talks to me. I usually don't even write comments, but right now I feel confident to do so. Thank you :)

    JKroni171JKroni1718 gün önce
  • I don’t think anyone who ACTUALLY has anxiety can be an actor or do half the things Sophie’s done.

    Ghizlane BenGhizlane Ben8 gün önce
  • You should do one on logic especially when he had an anxiety attack during an interview

    Michael FerriniMichael Ferrini9 gün önce
  • How can I read someone who has gotten very good at hiding there emotions and is afraid to show them to anyone because they're an anxious type

    Samuel BloomSamuel Bloom9 gün önce
  • downgrading yourself and making people feel good about themselves is not a charisma. it's just about being likable. clickbait much.

    Insh UnInsh Un9 gün önce
  • Video:How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma Me: Great! This is just what I needed. You're done for now, anxiety! Video: You'll need high energy Anxiety: Hey depression, wanna help me out here? Depression: Here's barely enough energy to get out of bed without falling to the floor Anxiety: Yay teamwork!

    TheShadowOfMadnessTheShadowOfMadness10 gün önce
  • Thèse videos seem to be made for me

    Zara FatimaZara Fatima10 gün önce
  • Sophie Turner looks like a blond version of Shailene Woodley

    Lethal BeautyLethal Beauty10 gün önce
  • If i would mirroring people they will kill me eventually

    erwin coploerwin coplo11 gün önce
  • ugh i love her :')

    sooa loves jisungsooa loves jisung11 gün önce
  • 2:31 “the biggest movie; dark Phoenix” BAWAGAHAHAGAHAHA WHAT

    Merrick BATMAN McFarlingMerrick BATMAN McFarling11 gün önce
    • it's not as successful as other x-men movies but still a big one.

      Insh UnInsh Un9 gün önce
    • An attempt to make Sophie feel even more important 🤷‍♂️

      ZayaJZayaJ11 gün önce
  • You're missing the key point; traits like vulnerability and admitting to butterflies in your stomach and depression and expressing emotions are charismatic in women and off putting in men in most situations. Maybe in Hollywood or rich circles of large cities this isn't the case, but that's terrible advice for the awkward construction or restaurant worker

    peldon marshpeldon marsh11 gün önce
  • Next video: "How to turn dying into charisma"

    LightLight12 gün önce
  • I needed this

    YandipetalYandipetal12 gün önce
  • Please please please. Anyone reading this, go get yourself a copy of Feeling Good. It is an absolute game changer.

    Irian G.A.Irian G.A.12 gün önce
  • Those Will Smith dance moves were sensational! 🤣

    Ayara 81Ayara 8113 gün önce
  • Can you do Aubrey Plaza?

    aurelaurel13 gün önce
  • Dude you are freaking awesome! Your content has seriously changed my life and i am extremely grateful!

    ikid8810ikid881013 gün önce
    • ~ Happy to hear our content is making a positive impact. :-)

      Charisma on CommandCharisma on Command9 gün önce
  • I'm just an Alien trying to be human.

    Winter is comingWinter is coming13 gün önce
  • Me, still having ASD and too much social anxiety to apply simple techniques: presenting "how to turn charisma into anxiety"

    AriadneAriadne13 gün önce
  • Sophie is a typical pisces

    Megan WyattMegan Wyatt14 gün önce
  • Do what be hot?

    Voile NoireVoile Noire14 gün önce
  • she uses the same "ironic" and somewhat sarcastic extreme expressions Keanu Reeves uses. Because unless you fullheardly feel how you express you end up sounding fake. But, doing it this way you can get away with expressing yourself and at the same time sound legit. Since, you aren't actually bullshitting anyone because you express both energy and half half seriousness about the hole thing, which in these cases actually is alot closer to how you actually feel about the hole thing than it would by expressing it in a fakey energetic way.

    TH3MSTH3MS14 gün önce
  • Turn anxiety to charismatic Being sloth

    borri byunambombaborri byunambomba14 gün önce
  • I absolutely love your videos. I feel like I drew the lucky card when it comes to understanding social interactions, but I see far too often people who aren't comfortable with themselves or can't read an audience to save their life. Especially in a world that emphasizes digital communication over verbal, it's great that y'all are here to help!

    DahrkMezalfDahrkMezalf14 gün önce
  • I wish she wouldn't have ruined xmen

    Joshua SavageJoshua Savage14 gün önce
  • Yeahhh

    NBD nullNBD null15 gün önce
  • Anyone else Anxious watching this?

    The VexThe Vex15 gün önce
  • I wanna be an actor, but the thought of it makes me shake and retreat to my happy corner, shutting myself off from the world and just...observing. I don't think I'll even do this correctly (what you explained in the video). One of my biggest fears is failure. I don't like the feeling of being embarrassed.

    Granger LodestarGranger Lodestar15 gün önce
    • @MC Sorry same

      Granger LodestarGranger Lodestar8 gün önce
    • I hate that feeling because I know the cure IS IN failure. It's like having to put yourself out there in order to get used to it. That thought alone terrifies me.

      MC SorryMC Sorry8 gün önce
  • She’s a Pisces... it makes sense. I’m an Aries AND a Pisces and it’s very contradicting emotions I go through. On one side I can be very bold and direct and on another side I can easily become shy and withdrawn. Now with these defaults, being aware of them and constantly working on bettering yourself is what can cause for a healthy change of a better you to come about.

    SwirlyapplesSwirlyapples15 gün önce
  • How to clickbait people into watching a doc about sophia whatever

    OjeansOjeans15 gün önce
  • This taught me A LOT about myself, and now that I can identify things I can work on changing them and improving my life through-out. Thank You! I'm having trouble identifying a related issue... I feel like I do fine when I'm approached and spoken to first, like; I can engage in a one-on-one conversation pretty well actually, even doing my part in keeping it continuous, but I'm absolutely paralyzed at initiating or speaking/being within groups. But my biggest concern is it feels like NO ONE wants to approach me, and I just don't know why. I have felt this for as long as I can remember, throughout high school, through out college days, young adult and still. I've tried to observe and reflect on my actions and reactions, but I'm not fully understanding where it's coming from. Maybe it's my insecurities, nervousness, shyness, MASSIVE eyes that's just hollering out every anxious emotion I have, maybe it's because I've experienced all this in a weird ass, hyper-judgemental & hyper-critical, small town, maybe it's the fact that I kind of like being laid back and observant and prefer an actual connection and stimulating topics over the need to gab incessantly, and I've heard maybe I'm intimidating? I just don't understand. /: if there's a video you've made about about the things we subconsciously do that repel people, orr anything that could help a link, a kind tip would be much appreciated ❤

    Carmen CamdenCarmen Camden15 gün önce
  • Sophie is a legend

    The Noobest GirlThe Noobest Girl16 gün önce
  • Easier said than done

    Levi LeviLevi Levi16 gün önce
  • We only need ONE friend

    Sofia KalaidopoulouSofia Kalaidopoulou16 gün önce
  • For my social anxiety disorder, working with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy didn't work at all. If it does for others, that's great, definitely keep using it. The only thing I've found that actually makes a permanent impact on it is to find areas of my life (mostly past experiences, for me) that create shame and to work through those. Radical self-acceptance and all that stuff.

    Vincent BurgerVincent Burger16 gün önce
  • 1 active vulnerability and knowing how to handle convos 2 mirroring 3 elaborate on someones idea 4 make fun of your own shyness

    House of fartsHouse of farts16 gün önce
  • this is too complicated for an autist like me lol

    CodeCommandCodeCommand16 gün önce
  • can you please take a little breath between each sentence? even if it's my mother language I would not understand

    Hossam Eldin NasserHossam Eldin Nasser16 gün önce
  • Huh. I always thought it was weird how my family and friends say I am really good with people in spite of having extreme social anxiety, after watching this video it makes sense. I tend to employ these tactics often.

    Sarah MackaySarah Mackay16 gün önce
  • Doesn’t she drink and smoke too? That helps 😆

    bluecali4nabluecali4na16 gün önce
  • Hay

    Yusuf KennebrewYusuf Kennebrew16 gün önce
  • I cant stand Sophie Turner. She ruined 2 franchises that I liked with her horrible acting.

    StuUngarStuUngar16 gün önce
    • :(

      Wavie DreamsWavie Dreams15 gün önce
  • So basically Soph' is amazing and quite more intelligent than she mostly leads on. My guess also has had mostly supportive people around and love as a kid and teen.

    Nusa ColemanNusa Coleman16 gün önce
  • She ia absolutely gorgeous not a silly personality BS but her own facial features, blonde blue eyes, perfectly placed facial features just so beautiful, she is a type of a beauty that i can think as an angel.

    Eadyt87Eadyt8716 gün önce
  • lol i was embarrassed in class bc these two guys in my class told my teacher that i give them chocolates for them to stop saying "she has no friends" i laughed along but really i was literally crying inside

    vitamin yesvitamin yes16 gün önce
  • Sorry, I can't control myself in that way. How do people do it?

    Infinity-ZInfinity-Z16 gün önce
  • Unsubscribe.

    Arjoon BessayeArjoon Bessaye17 gün önce
  • Anxiety means always "feeling butteries". Everyday life is a struggle.

    embracekyembraceky17 gün önce
  • Sees title* Me: I Am Speed

    The YuteThe Yute17 gün önce
  • The common denominator and everything he's talkin about deals with Attractive people being attractive makes you charismatic if you're unattractive you basically have to be a try-hard just to get people to notice you in the room I hate seeing bullshit like this it's so disingenuous just more classic beautiful people pretending to be humble in order to get more appreciation for being beautiful

    Maurice St.PierreMaurice St.Pierre17 gün önce
  • Also, be extremely attractive if possible.

    nihilistmannihilistman18 gün önce
  • This is honestly so helpful !

    Ashley MertensAshley Mertens18 gün önce
    • ~ Glad you're finding it helpful, Ashley!

      Charisma on CommandCharisma on Command11 gün önce
  • Anxiety: Hey, I'm gonna use you as a stunt double. Charisma: you what now..

    Quest For Blue SkiesQuest For Blue Skies18 gün önce
  • how I dealt with my depression: *I psychoanalysed myself and everyone around me untill I understood their behaviour completely.* From narcissistic personality disorder, to manics, to autists, to anxiety, jealousy and replaying childhood trauma, rationalisation and compartmentalisation, my own learned helplessness from having grown up with a severe stutter and a narcistic brother. Stuff I could always sense, I can now understand and manoeuvre around. I'm waaaaaaay happier now that I've achieved that.

    finsclappingfinsclapping18 gün önce
  • Let's clear up some misconceptions. >Bret clearly didn't say what Carlos Maza did was OK. >Bret clearly said that it would be wise of us to extend our thoughts of free speech to private platforms. >Comedians may say provocative things and we may choose to ignore them. That being said, if they come to your doorstep and start harassing you, that goes too far.

    Joni LeppänenJoni Leppänen18 gün önce
  • You should do one on Dakota Johnson. She’s awkward, but adorably awkward.

    Hasinaz AhmadHasinaz Ahmad18 gün önce
  • Wait, she's blonde? Lol, redheds even exist in Hollywood? Maybe Jean Grey(s) were never miscast(s) after all...

    OmegaPyronOmegaPyron18 gün önce
How To Turn Anxiety Into Charisma